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| Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves: Transforming Parent-child Relationships from Reaction And Struggle to Freedom, Power And Joy | 
 enlarge | Author: Naomi, Ph.d. Aldort
Publisher: Book Publishers Network
Category: Book
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Avg. Customer Rating:  31 reviews
Sales Rank: 9444
Media: Paperback
Number Of Items: 1
Pages: 280
Shipping Weight (lbs): 1
Dimensions (in): 8.9 x 5.9 x 0.8
ISBN: 1887542329
Dewey Decimal Number: 649.1
EAN: 9781887542326
ASIN: 1887542329
Publication Date: January 1, 2006
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 this book will change your life... for the better! May 30, 2008
7 out of 7 found this review helpful
This book has been one of the most transformative things i have read in my parenting journey. i am so inspired by naomi aldort's words and the way she guides you in your journey. i have found the book has had significant impact upon my life as a parent, and as a wife! my kids are happier and i am so much more connected to them.
i am not perfect as a parent but i feel naomi aldort affirms me on my journey and meets anyone who picks up her book exactly where they are at. there is no condemnation for anyone in the pages of this book, just love, acceptance and guidance. how refreshing and life giving!
i wish you many life changing moments as you read this book.
bea marshall
ps. her website is brill too [...]
 nice insight, but a bit lousy May 25, 2008
21 out of 27 found this review helpful
Although I like Naomi Aldort's approach and techniques , I think that this book is not for everyone.
I agree that most parents should let go of their will of control over their children's behavior, and try to connect with them more on an emotional level. I also agree that bribes, punishments, time-outs and such methods are best avoided and do not work in the long run ( with my 3 y old they never worked even as short-term solutions).
But since parents are in charge, they sometimes need to take action in a firm and loving way. This book does NOT provide tools to figure out this proper way to deal with everyday issues.
It just points vaguely to the need to provide a strong leadership.
Perhaps for some enlightened people, like Naomi actually appears to be, there is no need for further explanation. Most parents would appreciate it though, including myself, who have always been a wishy-washy kind of parent.
Furthermore, I find Aldort's style a bit lousy and not very empathetic towards parents, despite her best intentions. While reading, I often found myself thinking " Gee, I'd really like to be like her" . But I'm not. So what?
Her approach stems out of her unique way to be an exceptionally nurturing, loving person rather than being a technique that everyone can learn ad apply.
It must be said that the books offers a very important tool with the S.A.L.V.E. technique which helps the parent to accept children the way they are, and validate their feelings. This is the most valuable part.
I have found a similar, yet much more useful and powerful approach in "Playful Parenting" by dr.L Cohen. "Playful Parenting" is a very nice book that helps you reconnecting with children and meeting their needs without giving up 100% on cooperation ( While I agree that power struggles are best avoided, Aldort seems to consider the parental wish of kid cooperation just a sneaky form of control, and gives the parent full responsibility in cleaning up after children).
Another thing I do not like about this book is that it treats children like little adults. Aldort condemns praise and expectations, but after trying the "praise avoidance" for a couple of months, I have realized that my daughter actually needs and craves my approval and my cheers. I think we all need some praise from close people who loves us and which we love. Maybe there are some people (m including Naomi) who are so grounded and self-confident not to need praise anymore, what can I say? I'm not amongst them.
I recommend this book to already "good" and balanced parents who want to fine-tune their skills. I would also recommend it to parents that have shy, introverted children. Anyone can give it a read, but most parents will not be ready to go for Naomi's method without some additional skills to help them "offer guidance" to the children going completely wild! This is especially true for parents of strong-willed little people, who will benefit from coupling this book with another book focusing on EFFECTIVE parenting skills and tips.
Essential reading for all parents April 21, 2008
7 out of 7 found this review helpful
For any parent who wants to break the controlling style of discipline that creates so many problems and weakens relationships. Naomi suggests such a refreshingly simple way of keeping a loving connection with children through communication. Highly recommended.
Eye Opening January 28, 2008
9 out of 9 found this review helpful
This book gave me a new perspective on parenting. I don't say that lightly. I was raised to see punnishment and bribery as an intergal part of raising children. This booked freed me from needing to follow in an old pattern that, quite frankly, did not work for any of the families that I know. I feel blessed that I read a book like this while my son is still so young. It really gave me the opportunity to step back and re-evaluate my own biases in a way that not many books do.
Fantastic book on parenting from the heart November 17, 2007
5 out of 5 found this review helpful
If you're looking for a book to help you parent more compassionately and to help you raise healthy, happy, well-adjusted children - then this book is most certainly for you. Highly recommended, thank you Naomi.
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